I know that I sometimes like to make fun of women for the many things they do. Rest assured it is all in good fun, but today I wanted to say something nice, though it may take a little bit of a story to get to my point.
Who Should Pay?
One of the pressing questions of our time is who should pay on a date? While tradition dictates that the man is expected to pay for the meal, showing chivalry and respect for the time of his hopefully charming companion, rules are changing all the time. After feminism, anything that was considered traditional male behavior was brought into question, although it is funny how it seems that the negative double standards get a more critical eye than the positive ones. That said, many women think it inappropriate to have their man pay for a lunch or dinner. It is a difficult and pertinent question, so I wanted to weigh in on this.
While the fairness portion suggests that it is a good thing that women want to split costs, that might be using too narrow a prism when looking at the whole of the encounter. Through the course of several relationships and having close female friends, I have learned just how much is involved in female preparation. It shocks me how much a little container of makeup costs when you can buy a whole gallon of paint for sometimes less. Most women take looking good seriously and they probably do it for you also. With one or two notable exceptions, my observation is that girls try hard to make a good first impression and they will do a better job than you do. That doesn’t mean you’ll know their opinion (wait until you see if they return your call for that verdict), but it means you’ll probably enjoy your time out.
In light of that, I want to say thank you for looking good. Although I know sometimes you complain that men are too obvious in noticing or commenting, I also am certain you love the attention and feeling that you are worthy of notice. I also think that is one more reason why men should pay on their dates. I almost always have done so (excepting cases where the girl was so militant about splitting costs that to disagree would engender a fight) and I find that is appreciated. The support is deserved.
